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Ryan Davidson's avatar

Very interesting and insightful. An idea came to me while reading this, and I wonder if you think it tracks with what you're saying here. The Longhouse obviously gets a lot of mileage out of rhetorical slight-of-hand. If I understand your argument here, I think that the particular rhetorical trick doing a lot of heavy lifting here is equivocation on the notion of "safety."When we say that a particular thing is "safe," we could mean either that it is "safe for" something/someone, or that it is "safe from" various threats. Those are very, very different.

A strong person is "safe from" threats, perceived or otherwise, by virtue of his or her strength. But that same man may or may not be "safe for" others, depending on how that strength is used/controlled. The Longhouse can't have that, so strong people are anathema. But a weak person is always "safe for" others, because weak people are incapable of posing a genuine threat. Weak people are thus strongly preferable to the Longhouse.

On the flip side, the Longhouse, and the members thereof, wants to be "safe from" even perceived threats, so it is willing to countenance strength in itself and its members-in-good-standing, but it's never really comfortable with this. Why? Because the only way a weak person can be "safe from" perceived threats is to either 1) make sure that nobody, anywhere, has the strength to pose such a threat, or 2) be protected by someone who is strong.

These are, obviously, mutually exclusive. That doesn't stop the from Longhouse going for both possibilities at various times. Sometimes even at the same time. Various impulses that motivate the Longhouse push for both possibilities. The preference for absolute egalitarianism manifests as a hatred for competence, because strong people are threatening. But the motivation to protect requires the acquisition of strength, or at least power, even if the former preference makes such moves fraught with tension.

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Jerome V's avatar

It is very helpful, Bridgette, to read your insight into feminine thinking. Thank you!

>It scrambles for ... advantage through ... urgently needed new interventions that will keep everyone safe. It capitalizes on the natural inclination for safety that women possess and, through persistent messaging, it turns them into neurotic dependents of den-mothers.

Makes sense of the way so many women in my life bought into "The Narrative".

I agree and celebrate that thanks to your work here,

>A better understanding of the soft competition model will make them more effective at recognizing the tactics of the Longhouse as the indirect forms of competition that they are and, through forging collaborative bonds with other men, they will strategize together in that specialized way men do to find ever more refined ways to say to the Longhouse, “not today.”

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